asian parents have no tact. my mom just flat out called me ugly while we were cleaning up after dinner.

mom: you're growing uglier each day
me: WHAT?!?!
mom: yeah. in junior high you were really cute, but now it seems that you're getting uglier. your sister also.
me: that's so mean!
mom: well it's just like when you say I'm old.
me: well you ARE old. you qualify for the tuesday senior discount at ross. it's the truth.
mom: well you are ugly. it's the truth.
*my jaw drops*
me: what if i committed suicide because you said i was ugly?
mom: (laughs) someone committing suicide because someone else called them ugly? i've never heard of that. you'll be the first.
me: well it's like people who are anorexic. they starve themselves if someone calls them fat.
mom: huh. i dont think so. stop being so self-centered and conceited

(Of course the point I'm trying to make is that if you make degrading comments to a person, it lowers their self-esteem. And with all the pressures in society to look beautiful many people have killed themselves over imperfection. But, naturally, my mom fails to understand my point, and thinks I'm just being overdramatic and oversensitive about my looks.)

mom: (to my dad) look, i think she's mad.
me: im not mad. i don't care what you say about me. it's just not nice.
dad: well you're just at home. it's family. we can say what we want. she was just joking.

I'm thinking: YAH RIGHT. we CANNOT say what we want in this family. if i did that, you'd kick me out.

i can't beleive my mom straight up called me ugly. what kind of mother calls their kid ugly!??!?! i dont care if she DOES think I'm ugly, but it's the nature of the comment. i consider myself a pretty secure teenager, but what if i was this totally insecure person who cared what other people thought about me, was constantly fussing over my looks, and always worrying about my weight? then if my MOTHER called me UGLY, that would totally send me over the top/

i remember when my parents told my sister she was getting fatter. that shocked the HELL out of me and my sister. what kind of parents say that?!!? the people who become anorexic or bulemic are the people who AREN'T fat.

i'm not at all pissed off at what my mom said. i'm just feeling a mix of hilarity and utter shock and revulsion. the situation is so funny, yet at the same time I'm appalled she even made that comment (especially to a teenage girl). don't worry....i'm not gonna become totally sensitive about my appearance now. her comment hasn't dented my self-esteem or self-image at all.

asian parents have this brutal honesty that can be extremely tactless and appalling. i get a kick out of it sometimes.

well i must move my ugly self (hahahahaha) away from the computer so i can study for finals.